Ive had my eyes opened the past few days. It hit me after I listened to a sermon..So thought I would share! Longest post award goes to me No shame though haha..
The man I was listening to read a story about a woman who wrote about an occasion that took place when she was 23 years old. Finished college, and so thankful that she finally found a job in teaching out in California. She had a difficult position. She worked at a school with 10-14 year old boys that had been arrested. But yet she was glad to be there.
But that’s not where she begins her story. She begins her story by talking about how much her father cared for her, she said ” I could at any time walk up to my dad and he would stop what he was doing and he would look me right in the eyes and listen as I breathlessly spoke and spoke and spoke to him. At 13 years old, I was lengthy and awkward, he taught me how to gracefully walk like a lady. And at 17 when I told him there was a new guy at school. and I really wanted to get to know him, dad gave me the advice to keep the conversation neutral and ask him about his car.
I came in glowing the next day and said, “Dad it worked, hes going to ask me out, I just know it,” to which her father replied, “a beautiful young lady like you, the problems not going to be getting the guys, we are just going to have to figure out how to get rid of them.”
Whenever she graduated and she started working out in that little desert town, obviously her dad was concerned. But she assured him, “you raised me right, ill be okay.” One day she stepped out of the school at the end of the day, and to her surprise, the time had gotten away. She was shocked as she saw there were no other cars in the parking lot, she glanced down at her watch and was shocked to see that it was already six in the evening. Then she was shocked to see that all the gates were locked. She was locked in.
She noticed one of the gates was raised up and she began to think to herself, “I think I can get under that gate.”So she pushed first her purse through, then she laid on her back and she pulled herself through. She picked her purse up and started making her way to her car and she heard footsteps behind her. She looked back and she could tell by what the apparel was, that it was a group of guys who were in a gang. One yelled out, “hey are you a teacher?” Another yelled out, “shes too young, she must be an aide.” Another one yelled out, “Shes cute, lets get her!”
And she heard the footsteps turn into a run, and she began to reach back into her purse. She naturally reached back for her keys in her purse, and to her surprise, they weren’t there. They must have fallen out back at the gate. Her fingers began to dig frantically inside her purse, and she felt something she never felt before, a single key. She grabbed the key and begin to pray, “please let this key open my door.” She didn’t know where the key came from, she had never seen it before. She arrived to her car, inserted the key, it opened. She slammed the door, locked the door, she used the key and started the car..just as the guys began to beat on the door and kick the car. She drove away.
When she got into her house her phone rang and it was her dad. He said, “Just wanted to check in on ya and see how you were doing.” and she decided not to tell him what happened because she didn’t want to worry him, so they had a good conversation. Then, just before they got off the phone her dad said, ” oh hey I forgot to tell you that the last time you were home I made you an extra key, but I didn’t see you and so I just dropped that key down in your purse.”
She hung up the key, and to her that key was not just a key. To her that key showed the love and the care her father has had for her all throughout her life..
You see, there is something powerful when people truly and genuinely care for eachother. Sure its expressed in words, but its expressed a lot deeper in actions.
When I get married, (if) I get married lol, I will ensure my actions follow my words. To me, telling my husband I love him is important, put putting that love in to action is even more important..Even the smallest details are important… Getting to know my husband, what he likes what he doesn’t like.. Ways I can demonstrate my love for him. Ensuring my actions show just how deeply I care.. Even knowing the small details like what he orders at chipotle, or how he likes his coffee.
Because even the smallest details are important..I would expect the same from him.. Sure its nice to hear “I love you,” but if someone tells me they love me, but never takes time to show it, aren’t those really just empty words and just a feeling? Isnt there a reason for the saying, “actions speak louder than words.” We set this as the standard for people.. The standard in our relationships..
So why then would we think that our love and relationship with God should be any different? Isn’t this the most important relationship of all? He gives us everything we need to know about Him through His word… Details about what he likes, what He does not.. What He expects from us. Yet we assume He will accept just a love expressed with feeling.. Just saying, “I love you God.” with no action..
To me, that’s scary..and to me I wondered why I was doing this in the past..
Is it perhaps we have created our own man made definition of love?
Websters dictionary defines love as: an intense feeling of deep affection. But it says nothing about action..
The bible defines love as
“Love is patient and kind, does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (1 Corinthians 13:1-8)..
All based on action..
So when I used to say, I love God..But my actions were saying I was too busy for Him, or I didnt care about reading His word to get to know Him or what He wants for me.. Did I really love him? Im not sure I did..
You know what happens a lot of times in marriages when people don’t demonstrate their love through actions? Or take time to pay attention to small details? Those small details add up, and eventually both individuals get fed up with each other.. Eventually it ends in divorce..
To me, assuming that God will just accept a love for me that is not based on action, or that is man made, ” an intense feeling of deep affection,” terrifies me.. Because my soul depends on His judgement..I dont want to end up divorced from Him..
He demonstrated His love for us through actions
“For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”
I realized I need to be demonstrating my love for Him in the same way..Keeping His commandments, learning, studying.. Loving others..
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”
1John 4:7-10 -“Beloved, let us love one another:for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”
Also, as much as I demonstrate my love for God, I realized need to be demonstrating my love for others as well.. We can make a huge change in the world if we start demonstrating the love we have for God for each other, not just talking about it, not just feeling it. Even something as small as a smile to someone is still an action of love..You can say sorry a million times, say I love you a million times, say whatever you want, when you want, how much you want.. But if you’re not going to prove your words to be true with actions, is there really any point in saying them at all?
“Love is a verb, without action it is merely a word.”
Before you shoot the messenger, please just consider the message first.. Sometimes when I find myself getting defense towards something someone is saying, its because I know I might possibly need to make a change..It’s just some food for thought. Happy Wednesday